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Adultery/Cheating

Postby Unbridled Spirit » Sat Apr 17, 2010 10:12 pm

Adultery/Cheating- Comments??

Was reading the Jesse James topic and this came to mind.
I would like to hear everyone's opinions/comments, and if you have ever been in this situation.
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby Angry Whiteguy » Sat Apr 17, 2010 11:57 pm

Unbridled Spirit wrote:Adultery/Cheating- Comments??

Was reading the Jesse James topic and this came to mind.
I would like to hear everyone's opinions/comments, and if you have ever been in this situation.

He figured he'd get away with it because she is so cockeyed he didn't think she was looking at him...
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby DarkFairy » Sun Apr 18, 2010 1:25 am

Never been in that situation since I have been married and I hope I never am, saying that, now I will say this...We can all say what we 'would' do if it happened but until you are in that position no one really knows what they would do. My anger would control the initial reaction and probably for a while after that but I can't say "I would kick him out and never look back" because I don't know.

If it was just a one time thing or if it was a long term affair would make a difference to me. It would depend on many different variables, when people really love each other and want to make it work then they find a way to resolve the problems that come along and rebuild the trust that was lost, people don't stay married for 50+ years without some effort behind. We are all human and are capable of making mistakes.

I can't say I would forgive my spouse if he did it, I am saying I would look at the situation and decide the best course of action after the initial anger and hurt subsided. Knee jerk reaction is.....He would be gone! Truthful answer....no one knows until we deal with it ourselves.
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby DarkFairy » Sun Apr 18, 2010 8:15 pm

Well, US, I am really shocked more people have commented on this topic.....
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby Unbridled Spirit » Sun Apr 18, 2010 8:47 pm

Me too DF! Makes ya wonder... lol

My opinion is alot like yours. You never know what you might do in any situation. I also think that goes for the adulterer. We could stand and say "I would never cheat on someone." However, situations and life happens. Noone is immune to temptation.
For anyone to say they would automatically throw someone out for cheating is unrealistic. There are so many things to consider such as children, finances, etc. that your right DF- we never know what we may do in that situation...
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby DarkFairy » Sun Apr 18, 2010 10:05 pm

I know...must have a lot of adulterers on here afraid to comment! LOL

Just joking y'all before someone decides to take offense to that.


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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby GFunkMoneyDog » Sun Apr 18, 2010 10:09 pm

DarkFairy wrote:I know...must have a lot of adulterers on here afraid to comment! LOL

Just joking y'all before someone decides to take offense to that.


:P

LOL. Sorta like the topic where people seem overly offended about how many dates it takes to get to the center of a tootsie roll pop. (vagina)
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby Unbridled Spirit » Sun Apr 18, 2010 10:10 pm

GFunkMoneyDog wrote:
DarkFairy wrote:I know...must have a lot of adulterers on here afraid to comment! LOL

Just joking y'all before someone decides to take offense to that.


:P

LOL. Sorta like the topic where people seem overly offended about how many dates it takes to get to the center of a tootsie roll pop. (vagina)


OMG!! LOL ONLY you would post that!
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby Unbridled Spirit » Sun Apr 18, 2010 10:11 pm

DarkFairy wrote:I know...must have a lot of adulterers on here afraid to comment! LOL

Just joking y'all before someone decides to take offense to that.


:P


There all too busy scanning this post for their names! LOL
Just joking too! lol
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby RAP » Sun Apr 18, 2010 10:49 pm

Ok guys I could give you some stories that would curl your toes with all the dirt of my past but not going to do it. Suffice to say, been there done that, suffered the pains of the damed and gave as much as I was sent. Pure revenge and dragging myself down to the level of that which I was fighting against. Never again!!!!! I am better than that and no one is worth it. But as far as the right or wrong of it. It is the worse thing that can be done to another human being without cutting their heart out I know. That is why it is the only grounds for divorce that is approved by God. Malachi 2:13-16 with the wife of your youth may no one deal treacherously, for he has hated a divorcing. If you read the whole thing you can see why this statment was maid. Also when Jesus was on the earth he stated it very plainly.At Matthew 19:9
I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of fornication, and marries another commits aduultery.
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby Wild » Mon Apr 19, 2010 7:29 am

RAP that says it all but in these days most do not consider that at all. Most are not with the woman of their youth, little alone the woman of thier last few days. men and women are looking for the "one" but when they cheat they are really saying they are not worthy of the other persons love. Weither that persons love is below their own or above it when they cheat they are looking for something they might have already gotten and not realized it.

Cheaters are always looking for the perfect mate in their lives. They may have already received that mate in their lives and just did not work hard enough to keep it. Love takes work and time. It is not over night nor even in a couple of dates. Most live in a disposable world now days. This includes their sexual and emotional loves. They do not work to keep thier love alive and well, they will just go on to the next best thing not realizing that it is called the "next" best thing for a reason. They had done left the "best" in thier lives.
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby Kelli » Mon Apr 19, 2010 12:07 pm

I guess its just not something I have ever had to think about in my marriage..... I believe with everything in me that I will never have to worry about my husband cheating on me. Nor will he ever have to worry about me cheating on him. I have seen how lying and cheating and sneaking around keeping secrets has destroyed marriages and to me it just would not be worth all that pain and heartache. Everyone at some point in their relationship (married or not) meets another person who it is easier to talk to than their partner... too many people mistake this for "love" and will ruin their relationship thinking the grass is greener... it does not always work out that way. The key thing that every relationship needs to be successful is communication, trust is important but you can't depend on trust alone.
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby DarkFairy » Mon Apr 19, 2010 1:54 pm

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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby Tohotforharlan » Mon Apr 19, 2010 2:03 pm

you down with opp yeah you know me, I'm down With OPP. LOL wow you took it way back with that one LoL
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Re: Adultery/Cheating

Postby DarkFairy » Mon Apr 19, 2010 2:11 pm

Oh yeah, gotta love it!! 8-)
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